You might think that's a simple question. But it appears not. My 23rd birthday is at the end of this week, but am I really 23?
A week or so ago I was told that I was currently too young for the career I was looking at. I was fed up of being looked down on as "young" and not being given the chance to try to do new things because of my age. But then my church home group (mostly in their 40's and 50's) were trying to work out how old I was, and estimates ranged from 26 to 30! Then, in another group of friends, it was assumed that I was the oldest, despite one person there being two years older than me! The fact that I always seem to be the "mother" figure, handing out suncream, handwipes and generally organising people (even though I have no authority to do so, or even any plan beyond making it up as I go along) must be having some effect on people's minds!
So, people who know me seem to assume that I'm older than I actually am. Whereas people who don't know me particularly well judge from appearances (I can't help being small or looking young, and don't particularly want to change that!) and from my chronological age. A personality test I did when I was 16 suggested that my results were more typical of a 35 year old. But how can I get the fact that I'm (seemingly) more mature than my chronological age would suggest across to people? For example in interviews, when sounding like someone with experience rather than a naive graduate is certainly beneficial?
Any suggestions gratefully recieved!
Paul, in his first letter to Timothy tells him, "Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity." Although I can't claim to be a shining example of any of those things, I wish more people would pay more attention to Paul's words to a young and timid church leader in need of encouragement. How can anyone to gain experience without someone taking a risk and letting them have a go, make mistakes and learn from them? Without new people coming in, any organisation runs the risk of stagnating and, in a world where not to move forwards is to move backwards, that's a dangerous road. If Paul trusted the young, why can't people today?
Sunday, 1 June 2008
Thursday, 15 May 2008
Life in all its fullness...
I wonder if it was something of a joke on Jesus's part to say that he had come so that we might have life in all its fullness. Life can certainly be very full!
I went to visit my parents a couple of weekends ago. As well as the usual sneezing fit that I embarked on as soon as I walked through the door (I'm obviously allergic to my parents!) I had to put up with the relentless questioning from family and friends that I'm sure everyone gets on returning to the place where they grew up:
"So, what are you doing now?" (Talking to you, obviously.)
"Do you like York?" (Well, if I didn't I'd be unlikely to still be there.)
"How are you getting on at uni?" (I graduated nearly two years ago. As I told you when you asked me the same set of questions at Christmas. And the Christmas before.)
Seriously, however nice it is to see family and friends there is, for me, often an undertone of "when are you going to grow up and get a proper job?" No one asks that in so many words, but you can see that's behind their questions about what I'm doing. You can tell they think you wasted your time going to uni.
And in many ways, I'd like to be the person they think I should be. I'd quite like to be settled in my own house, with a reliable, professional job, not having to worry about whether my job paid enough to live on or whether my housemates were going to get on with each other. A safe lifestyle, where you don't have to move every year. But that doesn't seem to be likely, at least anytime soon.
Nope, instead my life's more a rollercoaster than a train ride (oh dear, my trainspotting friends have got to me). At least it's not boring. But the direction I'm heading in is more likely to result in a continuation of the rollercoaster than a switch to the train. Because if I do end up doing what I believe God wants me to do, and what I think I would be happy doing, it'll mean a lifetime of "living by faith"- not too much money, probably not settled in one place for more than a few years, doing a job that's demanding and all-engrossing.
I'm willing to do that. But it's hard to explain to friends and relatives who don't understand where you're coming from, who think you're either crazy or lazy for not getting a proper full time job and doing part time low skilled shop or office jobs to make ends meet while the real business of your life- getting experience, serving the church and testing out what I want to do in the future- is unpaid.
Sometimes the future that I've chose seems hard. Sometimes people's comments (like those described above) can make it harder. I don't want my family or friends to worry about my future, but to be excited about it. Because I am. Scared, but excited.
I went to visit my parents a couple of weekends ago. As well as the usual sneezing fit that I embarked on as soon as I walked through the door (I'm obviously allergic to my parents!) I had to put up with the relentless questioning from family and friends that I'm sure everyone gets on returning to the place where they grew up:
"So, what are you doing now?" (Talking to you, obviously.)
"Do you like York?" (Well, if I didn't I'd be unlikely to still be there.)
"How are you getting on at uni?" (I graduated nearly two years ago. As I told you when you asked me the same set of questions at Christmas. And the Christmas before.)
Seriously, however nice it is to see family and friends there is, for me, often an undertone of "when are you going to grow up and get a proper job?" No one asks that in so many words, but you can see that's behind their questions about what I'm doing. You can tell they think you wasted your time going to uni.
And in many ways, I'd like to be the person they think I should be. I'd quite like to be settled in my own house, with a reliable, professional job, not having to worry about whether my job paid enough to live on or whether my housemates were going to get on with each other. A safe lifestyle, where you don't have to move every year. But that doesn't seem to be likely, at least anytime soon.
Nope, instead my life's more a rollercoaster than a train ride (oh dear, my trainspotting friends have got to me). At least it's not boring. But the direction I'm heading in is more likely to result in a continuation of the rollercoaster than a switch to the train. Because if I do end up doing what I believe God wants me to do, and what I think I would be happy doing, it'll mean a lifetime of "living by faith"- not too much money, probably not settled in one place for more than a few years, doing a job that's demanding and all-engrossing.
I'm willing to do that. But it's hard to explain to friends and relatives who don't understand where you're coming from, who think you're either crazy or lazy for not getting a proper full time job and doing part time low skilled shop or office jobs to make ends meet while the real business of your life- getting experience, serving the church and testing out what I want to do in the future- is unpaid.
Sometimes the future that I've chose seems hard. Sometimes people's comments (like those described above) can make it harder. I don't want my family or friends to worry about my future, but to be excited about it. Because I am. Scared, but excited.
Friday, 2 May 2008
Anciently postmodern
Finally got round to writing something, and it's turned into a bit of a rant. Sorry...
When I studied postmodernism as part of my degree course at uni, the lecturers tried to make out that it was all clever and new. But various things that I've come across suggest that while the name might be new, the attitude (you can have your truth so long as it doesn't get in the way of mine) is very far from recent. You'd have though a history department might have been able to tell them that...
I read something today that struck me as a good summary with the problem of this kind of thinking for Christians. It's from a series of notes on the WordLive website (session date 29th April) about Paul's letter to the Galatians;
"There is a temptation in western cultures to relativise all religious truth-claims. We are quite happy to accept that particular religious beliefs are ‘true’ for those who hold them, but not ‘true’ for those who do not. ‘This is my truth, show me yours.’ Postmodernity is willing to tolerate and celebrate all the various human traditions so long as they do not claim a relevance that transcends the group that affirm them. This is because, whilst postmoderns may think that the gospel, for instance, is ‘true’ for Christians, they do not believe that it is really grounded in a divine revelation from the one God. What postmoderns really think is that the gospel is a human creation. This allows them to be nice to Christians and let them affirm their ‘truth’. It also allows them not to have to worry that they do not live by this gospel."
Since part of the "truth" that I believe is that the gospel is relavent to and applies to everyone, not just those who believe it, then if someone says that the gospel can only apply to Christians they are denying that it is true in any sense. If we- Christians -are told that we can't believe what Christianity says about itself- (eg "I am the Light of the World") then we're effectively being told that we shouldn't believe it. Which isn't the same as ‘This is my truth, show me yours.’ In effect, it seems to me that it's 'my truth is right, yours is wrong.' Which isn't very postmodern.
The article ends by saying, "Paul would not accept that approach to the authority of his message...If it is not public truth – true truth – then it is not true at all. This gospel might be true or it might be false, but it cannot be true for some people and not for others." I'd agree. But what do I know?
Whatever the truth (however you define it!) of all that, the same day's session goes on to talk about the power of people's personal stories or testimonies to demonstrate to people that beliefs are real. At the start of Galatians, Paul tells the story of his conversion and ministry to demonstrate his validity as a teacher and his trustworthiness to the Galatians. In a world where there are so many choices, how do we decide who or what to believe? Speaking to people who've made the choice to become Christians, you almost always find that it's because someone they knew and trusted- a Christian friend, family member, youth leader- demonstrated their faith and God's love for that person. Not by ramming Bible verses down their throat, but by just being there and being someone they knew they could trust. If we're not living out our faith, demonstrating that it's real and relavant to the world today, why should people decide to follow Christ rather than one of the myriad other philosophies? That's a challenge to think about over the bank holiday!
When I studied postmodernism as part of my degree course at uni, the lecturers tried to make out that it was all clever and new. But various things that I've come across suggest that while the name might be new, the attitude (you can have your truth so long as it doesn't get in the way of mine) is very far from recent. You'd have though a history department might have been able to tell them that...
I read something today that struck me as a good summary with the problem of this kind of thinking for Christians. It's from a series of notes on the WordLive website (session date 29th April) about Paul's letter to the Galatians;
"There is a temptation in western cultures to relativise all religious truth-claims. We are quite happy to accept that particular religious beliefs are ‘true’ for those who hold them, but not ‘true’ for those who do not. ‘This is my truth, show me yours.’ Postmodernity is willing to tolerate and celebrate all the various human traditions so long as they do not claim a relevance that transcends the group that affirm them. This is because, whilst postmoderns may think that the gospel, for instance, is ‘true’ for Christians, they do not believe that it is really grounded in a divine revelation from the one God. What postmoderns really think is that the gospel is a human creation. This allows them to be nice to Christians and let them affirm their ‘truth’. It also allows them not to have to worry that they do not live by this gospel."
Since part of the "truth" that I believe is that the gospel is relavent to and applies to everyone, not just those who believe it, then if someone says that the gospel can only apply to Christians they are denying that it is true in any sense. If we- Christians -are told that we can't believe what Christianity says about itself- (eg "I am the Light of the World") then we're effectively being told that we shouldn't believe it. Which isn't the same as ‘This is my truth, show me yours.’ In effect, it seems to me that it's 'my truth is right, yours is wrong.' Which isn't very postmodern.
The article ends by saying, "Paul would not accept that approach to the authority of his message...If it is not public truth – true truth – then it is not true at all. This gospel might be true or it might be false, but it cannot be true for some people and not for others." I'd agree. But what do I know?
Whatever the truth (however you define it!) of all that, the same day's session goes on to talk about the power of people's personal stories or testimonies to demonstrate to people that beliefs are real. At the start of Galatians, Paul tells the story of his conversion and ministry to demonstrate his validity as a teacher and his trustworthiness to the Galatians. In a world where there are so many choices, how do we decide who or what to believe? Speaking to people who've made the choice to become Christians, you almost always find that it's because someone they knew and trusted- a Christian friend, family member, youth leader- demonstrated their faith and God's love for that person. Not by ramming Bible verses down their throat, but by just being there and being someone they knew they could trust. If we're not living out our faith, demonstrating that it's real and relavant to the world today, why should people decide to follow Christ rather than one of the myriad other philosophies? That's a challenge to think about over the bank holiday!
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